Taco Town

Piggy-backing on Carrie's blog post for today, I am going to use this little space to vent.

I never dreamed about the day I was going to get married; the long white dress, the flowers, the sprays of blush and bashful, a polka band, etc.  When Chris and I got engaged I simply thought, "Cool.  I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.  High five."  NOTHING in that stream of consciousness was connected to the words flower, guest room block, DJ or deposit.

I don't subscribe to the thought of weddings = family reunion OR invite all the people you are related to.  Fun weddings are gatherings of great friends, kick ass music and tasty nourishment.  There have been conflicting thoughts about who should be invited to our wedding-- I want the guest list on the smaller side, while others can't seem to see value in that.  My biggest fear is having a room FULL of guests (that I have to talk to/greet, etc) and not getting to enjoy the music, etc.

While exploring the topic of family, I want to shed light on a simple fact.  Just because someone is related to you (by blood) DOES NOT mean that you must have a relationship with them.  In normal life, when people say rude and disrespectful things about you and/or your immediate family, you write them off.  Life is too short to put up with negative words thrown at you/trash talk, etc.  A level of respect should be upheld when referring to extended family; when those three things are no longer in the mix, the relationship is over, related or not.

With that being said, why should I be expected to invite extended family members that are rude and disrespectful?  If I weren't related to them, sure as shit they wouldn't be invited.  Just something to think about.......